Love, money, death. Or a prenuptial agreement?
It’s hard to recognize fraudsters squeezing money under the motto “love - prove”, while there are pink glasses in front of your eyes. Moreover, usually such people are very good at playing on human weaknesses and complexes.
“Ah, it is not difficult to deceive me, I am glad to deceive myself”
The immortal phrase of the classic illustrates well the behavior of people who are ready to believe even in dubious facts. Unfortunately, the complexes do not bypass either men or women, becoming a favorable environment for deceivers. “If a person has a sexual inferiority complex, it is very difficult for him to establish normal close relationships with the opposite sex,” says Marta Belokon, a psychologist-consultant. For example, a businessman in his years, experiencing constant stress, is unlikely to be able to demonstrate his viability in bed to a young woman. And if a “perfect partner” appears on the horizon, extolling his sexual strength, then it may happen that for the sake of appreciation he is even ready to marry her. Of course, this will happen if a man cannot assess the situation with a sober look and is not able to treat himself critically, that is, he takes such assurances at face value.
Alexei, a wealthy man in his forties who has a problem with potency, and Anna, a young sexual provincial, seriously approached the legal side of formalizing their relationship and entered into a marriage contract with a notary. It included a clause stating that if the husband becomes the initiator of the divorce, he must pay the second half 100,000 euros. If the marriage is terminated at the initiative of the spouse, then she will remain in her own interests. The young lady was not configured for marriage in every sense with the elderly “daddy,” but she was not going to give him her young years for free. Anna decided to push her husband to a divorce in order to get the “bonus” due. For a year and a half during which the spouses were officially married, the young wife spent a maximum of a month and a half with her husband. Instead of a matrimonial home, she preferred to live in chic hotels in foreign resorts, or at a party, not letting herself know for months. The maturing spouse realized that he was in the hands of a swindler. Alexey's patience came to an end, and he turned to lawyers. It took a lot of effort for lawyers to prove that this marriage was fictitious and to protest the marriage contract. At the court, numerous vouchers, airline tickets were presented, proving that the spouses did not live together, as well as witness statements that they did not conduct a joint household. The plaintiff’s arguments forced the judge to invalidate the marriage and free the parties from fulfilling obligations under the concluded marriage contract.
The complexes have no age, so young people can also become victims of marriage frauds. A child who has grown up “under a cap” of overly caring parents, and in adulthood will pay attention not to the other person’s inner world, but to his outer shell: children buy bright toys. Therefore, it can easily fall under the simulated charm of a fraudster with a spectacular appearance: a beautiful “wrapper” fogs the mind.
A distinctive feature of a scammer is always mercantile interest. Svetlana Sharova, a lawyer at Staleks Law Office, a member of the Moscow City College of Advocates, advises the loving owner at first not to register a new “lover” for a long time on her living space. Giving him a loan of money, also should not be shy, and offer to draw up a deal on paper. By the way, the lawyer says, just the offer to go to the notary, like litmus paper, shows the true intentions of the scammer. If a person does not agree, citing employment, or comes up with other reasons, this should alert the other half.
RICH BRIDE SYNDROME
“Despite the fact that today a woman works on an equal footing, and sometimes more than a man, if she was not married by the age of 30, then the society hangs on her a label -“ loser ”- even if in the professional sphere she has reached such heights that men and never dreamed, ”says Marta Belokon. And successful business women begin to feel their inferiority, a fear of loneliness appears. To "adapt" to existing stereotypes, they are sometimes ready to succumb to the courtship of men with a dubious reputation, marital swindlers. And he, having hooked such a "golden fish" onto a hook, the swindlers are doing everything to prevent it from breaking.
26-year-old Elena successfully managed her own small company, there was a lot of work, there was sorely not enough time for her personal life. The girl was pleased with the attractive, and her friends and mother wondered why she was still alone. Elena developed a complex, she began to think that she would remain an old maid. Once in a cafe a charming young man approached her. Making a happy face, he turned to her with the words: "Elena, my name is Dmitry, we met at one of the parties, Sergey introduced us to each other." Elena had several acquaintances of Sergeyev, but she could not remember where and when she saw Dmitry. He confusedly explained: "We all got drunk there." The girl was ashamed, she allowed the young man to sit down at his table. They started talking, Dmitry said that he is a lawyer, co-owner of a small company. Young people began to meet, Dmitry almost immediately confessed to Elena in love. Nevertheless, he did not insist on close relations, saying that he took her too seriously. Elena liked his compliments, the only embarrassment was that he did not introduce her to his friends and relatives, did not allow her to call in to the office. He didn’t make an official offer either, negotiating with serious problems at work. Finally, Dmitry said that he was under investigation - they say he was framed by a client. He said that he needed to save his property and suggested that Elena transfer her apartment to it. For this, he asked her for a receipt that six months later she would transfer her real estate to him (Elena had a 3-room apartment in the center, inherited from her parents). The girl suspected something was amiss and stopped communicating with Dmitry. Soon her apartment was robbed. The police said that the criminals knew well the routine of the hostess.
“Cases of“ marital ”fraud, when people for various reasons drag out the registration of marriage, but at the same time actively use the generosity of their“ future spouse, ”for example, they often borrow money from him while living on his living space,” the lawyer admits Svetlana Sharova. But, as a rule, only certain cases that have reached the court, lawyers manage to win. It is extremely difficult to prove the fact of fraud; it is rarely possible for an interested party to find witnesses who would confirm that it was right. A swindler can be held accountable if victims through his fault find each other and their appeals are combined into one lawsuit.
50-year-old Svetlana divorced her alcoholic husband and decided that her personal life should be put an end to. In addition, her mother was seriously ill, the doctors insisted on hospitalization. Svetlana visited her in the hospital and there she met Mikhail. He was 7 years younger than Svetlana, introduced himself as a psychologist working on one of the television channels. True, no one visited the connoisseur of human souls, and the compassionate Svetlana began to carry products not only to her mother, but also to him. Several days passed, Mikhail admitted that he was in love with Svetlana.
His kind words spilled like a balm on a woman’s wounded soul. Despite all the efforts of the doctors, her mother died. Mikhail, after discharge from the hospital, came to Svetlana and said that he would live with her. “You need support, and I want to be around in such difficult days for you,” he said. He told about himself that he was found in a communal apartment, since during a divorce he had given everything to his ex-wife, from whom he had several adult children. Svetlana herself raised twins, and the story of Michael really touched her. Moreover, he was so courteous, and outwardly looked like her beloved Nikita Mikhalkov. A middle-aged woman was bribed by his charm, moreover, no one ever sang songs specially for her with a guitar, and Mikhail sang. She began to consider him as a future husband, but Michael was in no hurry to make an offer. He began to pull money from Svetlana under various pretexts: to deal with affairs, to pay off debts. He said that as soon as he understood the creditors, they would get married. They lived together for three years, in total, he borrowed ten thousand dollars from her. Moreover, Mikhail did not disdain to borrow the little things from Svetlanin’s friends, - Svetlana meekly repaid debts. He told her about his constant problems: either his car broke down and he needs money to fix it, then they threaten to kill him if he does not repay his debt
Lawyers note that recently, in comparison with the period of five to ten years ago, the number of fictitious marriages has decreased. In the capital, the Moscow residence permit and living space was always a tidbit for scams, but with the introduction of the new Housing Code, the spouse who settled in the apartment has practically no opportunity to stay in it after the divorce - according to the law, when divorcing, the former spouse is written out to the address where It has been registered previously. If this situation had appeared earlier, many cases ending sometimes tragically for property owners could have been avoided.
53-year-old Vladimir, a former captain of the Ministry of Internal Affairs, divorced his wife and moved to live with his mother. After her death, he began to drink, but in moderation. Once, when buying beer at the market, I met a saleswoman - an Armenian named Anaid. She was 10 years younger than him. Upon learning that Vladimir lives alone in a 2-room apartment in Sokolniki, she immediately took him into circulation and surrounded him with increased attention. The former military man boasted to her neighbors of her gifts: a thick “golden” chain, a signet ring. After a very short time, Anaid moved to her new acquaintance as a legal bride. I didn’t agree to his persuasion to live “just like that”, she insisted on formalizing the relationship. Vladimir surrendered three months later, despite the opposition of friends and neighbors. For marriage, they even received special permission at the Armenian Embassy. Almost the day after marriage, 9 relatives of Anaid came to Vladimir’s apartment: a father, a daughter from his first marriage with his husband and two children, and a son with his wife and two children. Anaid received Moscow registration, registered her father in the apartment of Vladimir and left the market. Her relatives were hosted, Vladimir began to strain it and he sent them home with scandal to Armenia. True, they were absent for long and soon arrived again. Vladimir told Anaid that he was going to file for divorce. Very soon, the neighbors began to observe that they were dragging cheap vodka into the apartment with boxes - they had not seen Vladimir himself sober. He failed to file for divorce. A few months later, Anaid suddenly left. When she returned, for some reason she did not open the locked door with her keys, but immediately turned to the police. Arriving policemen broke into the castle and found Vladimir’s lifeless body in the apartment. The inconsolable widow immediately re-registered his apartment.
HOW TO PROTECT FROM MARRIAGE SCAMERS?
“The most durable marriages are concluded, as they say, in their midst,” says Marta Belokon. - Future spouses, as a rule, have common acquaintances and many opportunities to track the behavior of the “second half”. But resort novels are best left at the resort. On vacation, people have reduced awareness of responsibility for themselves, and they are able to do stupid things. Resorts are a favorite place for the “hunt” of marriage scams. You should not follow their lead and transfer a non-binding novel to domestic soil. May he remain your pleasant memory. ” If a person has adequate self-esteem, he is also unlikely to fall for the scammer who is used to playing on human complexes. If you feel that the complexes are stronger than you, then you should contact a specialist - a psychologist or sex therapist, and not believe in the miracle that the unfamiliar person promises, for example, to cure frigidity.
By agreeing to an “unequal” marriage, you need to play safe and conclude a marriage contract. This service costs an average of 700-1000 dollars. The contract indicates what capital each spouse had before marriage, stipulates “material compensation” that the ex-wife will receive if the husband initiates the divorce, and / or vice versa. In relation to common property, the wording is often used that the apartment, cottage, car and so on. after the divorce, they will remain with the party in whose name they will be acquired and registered.