Why are men more confident than women?
Confident people doubt no less than the rest. But they can cope with themselves, overcome weaknesses and direct energy in the right direction. And here we have a lot to learn from men.
|Confident people doubt no less than the rest. And here we have a lot to learn from men.|
Men are physically stronger
For thousands of years, men have fought for what they would like to possess. With the help of physical strength, they received food, treasures and beautiful women. The strongest survived, which means that it was necessary to fight not for life, but for death. Of course, in our age of high technology, contentious issues are much less often resolved with the help of brute force. If a conflict arises, the man enters into peace negotiations. But genetic memory is stronger than scientific progress. At heart, a man realizes that if not one of his arguments is convincing enough, then there is always the last resort - physical strength. This does not mean at all that he will use this tool, but the thought itself gives him self-confidence.
Women, on the contrary, are aware of their weakness. And that is why it is difficult for us to argue with men. When an aggressive light appears in their eyes, genetic memory works against us. We know that if he hits, we will be weaker. How to be? First, remember that even predators only attack those who show their fear. Secondly, do not forget that all those millennia, when men practiced hand-to-hand combat, women honed the art of persuading. And it’s a sin not to use this art.
Men control themselves better
From childhood, boys are raised as future defenders. They are convinced that you can’t cry, be afraid and offend the weak. They should be strong, keep themselves in control and not be afraid of anything. In a word, boys are taught to control themselves. Society requires that a real man be on top in any situation. And the man is trying to match. This does not mean that in extreme situations, men do not worry. They worry, but do not show their feelings, which means that the opponent has a feeling that the enemy is absolutely calm and confident in their abilities.
A woman by nature is more emotional, her feelings easily erupt to the surface. As a result, the opponent notices at what point you started to worry. Then he deliberately annoys you, after which he hits you in the most painful place. To avoid this, learn to control yourself in public. Watch for gestures, facial expressions, voice. When you worry, breathe deeper and do not make rash acts, for which you will be ashamed later. Your task is to hold out until you reach a house or another place where you can give free rein to feelings. And then shout, cry, beat the dishes and bash a punching bag. Negative emotions cannot be kept within themselves; they must be splashed out. But self-confident people do this away from prying eyes.
And do not forget about one big female advantage. Society imposes on a man the need to control himself. The one who fails is a rag and a mattress. You are a woman, and do not have to be strong. On the contrary, very often the apparent softness and compliance allow you to twist the rope from the harsh men. Nobody expects from you that in an extreme situation you will be able to gather will in a fist. But if you can, it is a huge force.
Men aim for results
Men overcome problems in the manner of a bulldozer: they set a goal and do everything to achieve it. However, it is not very important for them how to achieve what they want. Tactics and strategies may vary depending on circumstances, but the main thing is the result. A woman, as a rule, pays much more attention to the process. What is the best way to proceed? How to behave? Have I calculated everything correctly? It turns out that numerous trifles distract us from the main thing, and very often the final goal remains unreached. You imagine the difficulties, get scared and in the end do nothing at all. To prevent this from happening, tune yourself exclusively to a positive ending. Of course, one must keep in mind possible obstacles and ways to overcome them. But the main rule of a self-confident person is: to solve problems as they become available, and not to worry about what just loomed on the horizon.
Men are not afraid to offend
Men are much less likely than women to admit that they have problems in relationships with others. This is because a man is not initially inclined to reckon with other people's feelings when it comes to achieving his interests. Purposeful man is aggressive. He sets himself a task and goes to it, not paying attention to what colleagues and subordinates think about this. He is not afraid to offend others or seem rude.
For women, on the contrary, it is very important how they look in the eyes of others. They want to please everyone and everyone, they want to be admired, to love. And as a result, they agree to do what they do not want at all, just to not offend colleagues or friends. We do not want to be too persistent and impose our point of view. But being self-confident and being rude is not the same thing at all. The main thing is how you defend your point of view. Do it politely and reasonably, and then there will be no offense. And then, remember once and for all: you can not like everyone. Even if you really want it.
Men prefer to forget about failure
Men really do not like to remember their mistakes. They do not like to remember them so much that they are even ready to break off all relations with witnesses of their mistakes. It would seem easier? Kick out the negative experience. Say to yourself: you drove through, you can’t do what you did, so why worry in vain? But it’s not easy for women to do this: we endlessly lose an unpleasant situation in our heads, imagining what could be done. We wind ourselves up. We turn history into a universal catastrophe. And when you need to take on something new, we certainly remember how terrible everything was last time. In this case, there can be only one piece of advice: you need to extract something positive from any mistake. Understand what this or that situation has taught you. Then take note of it and move on, not focusing on the past.
Men focused on a career
Self-confidence requires high self-esteem. You must be better at some indicators than others. And the most important of these indicators is professional achievement. Women, family, children and household chores take a lot of energy, and men, as a rule, are more focused on their careers and, therefore, more successful professionally. But here, the weaker sex has a great advantage. If a man’s career is unsuccessful, this is the collapse of all his hopes and the end of self-confidence. The woman always has a house and a family where she can fully realize herself.
How to restore self-confidence
- Pay attention to all your victories, even the smallest and, at first glance, insignificant. Praise yourself and reward, at least with a cake or a trip to the beauty salon.
- Make a detailed list of your strengths and achievements. Mark in it what is most envied by others.
- Remember the pleasant. If things are not working out very well today, remember the situation in which you performed well. And try to keep that mood of victory.
- Never act in haste. If nerves are at the limit, focus on what is not relevant to the problem. Count all the flowers on the wallpaper. Try to recall the text of a poem or song - from beginning to end and better in a foreign language. Calm down a bit? Now you can get back to business.
- In a stressful situation, find a way out for negative emotions. Go in for sports, clean the apartment or just walk for a few hours. When you are physically tired, there is simply no strength in self-eating.
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