Sonya changed my life
In the maternity hospital, after the emergency birth of Sonya, the parents were informed that the girl had Down syndrome.
|Alexander Bychkov, 43 years old, father of 5-year-old Sonya|
Was it scary? “Nothing so special - he says, - a person, when necessary, and can not do this. I called the Rescue Service, they explained to me in a nutshell what to do, and that’s all. Sonya was born quite easily, I put her on my mother’s stomach, and soon an ambulance arrived. He did not experience any stress, he was concerned that everything went well. And now she recalls the birth of Sonya as one of the happiest episodes of their family life. Sonya is the second and long-awaited child of Alexander and Galina. She appeared in the family 16 years after the first daughter of Ksyusha: “We always wanted children, but we did not give birth out of stupidity, because of some kind of disorder,” says Alexander. “Scroll back, maybe they would give birth to a couple more.”
Pregnancy was a joyful time for both. When the doctors proposed a special study on genetic disorders, Alexander and Galina asked if this could make a difference. Having learned that no, they refused. After all, they knew that under no circumstances would they refuse to give birth to a child.
Later, Alexander said: “It’s good that we didn’t know anything then, otherwise the remaining 3-4 months would not have enjoyed the pregnancy, but would have frantically searched for information.”
In the maternity hospital, where the whole family went after an emergency birth Sonya, parents were informed that the girl has Down syndrome. “We didn’t know anything about this syndrome then,” Alexander admits. Gradually, the relatives were informed about the diagnosis - the eldest daughter, grandparents. At first, of course, no one believed - “such eyes are smart,” then they cried, and then calmed down. Gali and Alexander themselves did not have a depression typical of many parents, they simply started looking for information and people who would explain, help, advise.
Alexander says that from birth, Sonia radically changed their lives, and for the better. Before that, they lived in a small town 60 km from Moscow. Worked: Alexander - the director of a small construction company, Galya - an engineer in a research institute in a town. When Sonya appeared, it became clear that she would have to deal a lot. Literally from the very first days of her daughter’s life, Alexander went to the organization Downside Up, which supports children with Down syndrome, found out what examinations and classes Sonia needs.
And the changes began: at first they changed the car so that it would be convenient for Sonya to drive for a long time. Then they moved closer to Moscow, changed their usual mode of life. “What we have achieved now,” Alexander admits, “would not have been possible without Sonya. We led a measured calm life, everything suited us. Sonya made us move. ” Soon they bought a second car - for Gali, now she carries Sonya.
Almost every day, Sonya is engaged - with a speech therapist, in a music studio
Sonya herself is a smiling girl with red ponytails, she is happy for everyone she sees, looks at the pictures and looks exactly as happy as her parents.By the way ...
- 50% of fathers leave a family where a disabled child is born.
- 4% of them help to raise a disabled child.
- 32% of fathers never meet their disabled children. These are official figures. But non-state sources claim that in fact:
- 90% of children with disabilities are raised by single mothers.
- If parents can use the psychological support service, as, for example, in Downside Up, then most dads remain in families.