Advice from a child psychologist
Q: My 5-year-old son likes to climb a tree, call me and watch me worry and ask him to get down. It requires me to be under the tree and insure it. Is it worth it to wean him from such games?
Climbing trees is loved by all children. This is not only interesting, but also useful. It develops coordination of movements, vestibular apparatus, eye, skeletal muscles
Everyone knows that climbing up is much easier than going down. Sometimes, carried away by the process, the baby simply does not notice how high he climbed. Gradually, the baby will master more and more skills and less need insurance. In this situation, it is important not to extinguish its activity, not to form fears, but, on the contrary, to support and direct activity in a positive direction.
1. Start with training You can begin to teach your child to climb after three years, when he will fully master all the basic movements. Conduct preliminary training at home and on the playground: master the Swedish wall, climbing a rope, walking on a log and a children's sports complex.
2. Practice Find a strong tree with frequent, low-lying branches and invite your son to climb the lower branch. When he learns to get off the first branch himself, allow me to climb higher.
3. Training Put your child in the climbing section. This sport has now become very popular. Climbing walls for the smallest (from 3-4 years) are in almost every sports center, and experienced instructors will help the baby master the necessary skills.
4. Have fun The forbidden fruit is sweet - that is why prohibitions often lead to the opposite result. Instead of banning, use “enhanced responsibilities.” Turn your child’s hobby into a routine - daily collection of cherries, cherries, apples, plums ... He can climb trees as much as he likes, if he provides you with help in harvesting. The introduction of the “collection rate” works especially well: until you collect the jar, sit on a tree. Usually, after a few days, the desire to climb trees disappears.
Q: The daughter fell in love. How to behave mom?
Do not anticipate events! Even if you know that with a personal close acquaintance with the "hero of the novel," the girl’s interest disappears, do not tell her about it. Let her find out herself that he does not meet her expectations and ideas at all, and communicate with a real person is much more difficult than with a fictitious way. This is a painful, but very necessary lesson.
B: Daughters 15 years. She is a cheerful girl, she always knew how to make friends. She recently admitted that she has been in love with a boy from a parallel class for several years and is suffering terribly from this. They look at each other, but are afraid to come up. How to overcome the barrier in communication?
Explain to your daughter that walking and just playing “peepers” can be endless and completely inconclusive. So you need to look for opportunities in order to start communicating, first in a friendly way. Perhaps this will grow into something more. Advise: “Start by simply saying hello when you meet him. Then ask, how are you, what kind of music is he listening to now
Do not forget that teenage girls are often passionate about the very idea of love, they come up with relationships, but they don’t at all try to move on to practice. All this is part of the psychological preparation for a future relationship.
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